Sunday, December 19, 2010

To play or not to play?

 Photograph by Milaya Bealer on my Droid phone

 
As I was reading a blog that I look at quite a bit lately, I saw this post by Miss Mustard Seed about Raising Creative Children. Brian and I have been trying to get Milaya to practice her piano and enjoy doing it. She HATES to practice. Throws a fit every time we say it is time to practice.  She is really good and can even play some things by ear, but she gets so frustrated. Then we get frustrated with her because she is being too hard on herself. She is good. Why can't she see that? We tell her that, her teacher tells her that. I just hope that as a parent I haven't failed in teaching her that she doesn't have to be perfect. So hence the reference to Miss Mustard Seed. I think that she did WAY too much. Her parents must have been COMPLETELY EXHAUSTED! But she did have a good point that her parents wanted her to try different things. She didn't have to be good at them, they just wanted her to try. That is all that we want for Milaya. 

She begged to let me let her take ballet when she was younger...I did. Then she wanted to quit halfway through the year saying she was "bored". So I got tired of the throwing fits and whining, so I let her quit. Then last year she BEGGED me to let her play the piano. We enrolled her in lessons and she was cruising through the books doing really well. Then after one year she wanted to quit. We didn't let her. Now we are going through the same thing of not wanting to practice, crying at the piano, sulking and wasting her practice time, begging me to let her quit. We have tried setting a specific time for her to practice and that hasn't worked. We have tried to reward her with money if she practices. That didn't/isn't working. She really wants an Ipod or mp3 player and we have discussed that as a reward at the end of the year. Something to be working towards. That doesn't seem to be working either. We have asked her why she wants to quit and we get the same answer....it's boring.

WHY DO KIDS NOT UNDERSTAND YOU HAVE TO LEARN THE BASICS BEFORE YOU GET TO THE FUN STUFF?!?!? 

I mean, I want to ring her little neck, I love her so much, but geez louise! I remember taking piano when I was young so I called my mom the other day and asked her if I ever did that. She said sometimes. I remember not liking to practice. Now I wish I would have practiced. I wish I would have stuck with it. I can sit down and pick things out, but I can't play well. I chose another path. Dance. She said that I never complained about going to dance class. I never felt that way. I loved it. One day I hope to find out what that one thing is for her so she can start to develop her talents that I know she has. 
Brian even asked his mom (since she teaches piano) of what to do. I think that she had some great suggestions on what to try next. At this point I am willing to try anything to just get her to practice and try. Here are some things that she suggested.

*Is she getting too many songs to practice?
*Is there something bothering her about the lessons or learning to play?
*Maybe we need to let her take a break and revisit the issue when she is older.
 * play through their songs 3 times each every day.  
*have them play one song each day 3 X then the next day play another song 3 times. ( The trick is is have them practice a little every day for short periods of time so that it establishes a routine. 
Can I just say that I LOVE MY MOTHER IN LAW! She said some things that made complete sense. Hopefully we can try these things and it will make a difference. Like she said too...I just want them to have a love of playing the piano and an appreciation of music. 

That is all that I wish for you sweetheart. I love you.
But the question is still there...to make her play or not to play? 
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This is Milaya playing "Fur Elise" by ear. After hearing me play it. She has also figured out part of the theme song to Harry Potter.


Thursday, September 30, 2010

Stay Tuned!

So, we haven't been on here in a while. There is lots to tell and show. I had a birth at the beginning of July, left for vacation at the end of July. We traveled across the country to CO to a family reunion and then down to Texas to visit my family. We didn't get back until around Aug 25th. Yes, it was a long vacation, but the kids did pretty good in the car. There was a sweet Lady in our ward that just dropped off bags of "things to do" for each of the kids. They loved it! Brian couldn't stay the whole time, so he came home on the 11th of Aug. So we missed him most of the month. My mom drove back with me and the kids and stayed for two weeks. We were glad to have her here with us.

While we were in CO we:
* went to the Zoo
* went shooting
*went swimming
* tried to get 39 people to smile and look at the camera at the same time
*had a birthday/40th anniversary party
*played with lots of cousins

All in about 4 days!

Texas was a little more laid back, no planned activities. Although we did go to a museum in Orange. So my next posts will be in parts otherwise it will be one HUGE post. Plus, it will probably take me forever to get it done!

So....stay tuned for more pics and thoughts from the Curly Headed Bealers!

Monday, May 31, 2010

Hayden's First Birthday

Today is Hayden's first birthday. We invited a bunch of friends over to help us celebrate with ice cream and cake. Mandy went all out and created a barn yard cake, complete with barn, silo, pond, pigs, chicks, and cows.





Taking a bite of the cow's marshmallow nose.


Happy 1st Birthday Hayden



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Sunday, January 31, 2010

Snow Fun

We got some snow on Friday and the kids were so excited to go and play in it! I even went out and played in it (which I normally don't do!) We broke out the sand toys and used them in the snow! I got some saucer/sleds for the kids, but I had no idea where we were going to use them. So we found the next best thing...the ditch! Hey it worked...they had fun. There were so many pics that we took, it is always so hard to decide which ones to use...therefore, there are lots on this post!

Milaya drew a smiley face for dad on his car.





Brock shoveling snow on people.
Me and Milaya about to slide. It was so funny because it wasn't that deep, but you went down and then went back up backwards in the ditch.
1. Pick a spot

2. prepare for take-off

3. Weeeee....

Yes, I am only a head taller than my 8 year old.

One of the times we found Hali in the snow. The next one is what we found when she got out of the snow.



She kept saying, "my bum is freezing!" Now we know why! She had ice all down her pants, poor baby!

Bad attempt to do a self portrait of all of us!






Our picnic table on the side of our house.









And now comes the aftermath of playing in the snow!!!



Hali was so cold and miserable when she came in. She warmed up with some hot chocolate though.

Rosy little cheeks!

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Calendar

I recently went to a Heritage Makers party, which is an online/digital scrapbooking company. They have tons of papers, embellishments and things that you can choose to put on your pages. It was a little overwhelming at first, but once I figured out how to use it, it was so fun. I never thought that I would be into the digital scrapbooking, but it was fun. I still like the hands on stuff too. So anyway, here is my project that I did for Brian's parents and then the second one is for my parents. They are pretty much the same, with a few minor changes. Brian's family is quite a bit bigger than mine!


Bealer Family
http://www.heritagemakers.com/projectBrowserStandAlone.cfm?projectId=1175968&productId=31&projectSponsor=392057

Welch Family
http://www.heritagemakers.com/projectBrowserStandAlone.cfm?projectId=1182946&productId=31&projectSponsor=392057